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I am torn between love and passionSalam Guru,I am a 22-year-old girl, and I am a fine-art graduate. A few months ago, I got a job in a private school as a drawing/art teacher. I love my job as it gives me joy when I see young children take an interest in colouring and painting. I have loving parents who also appreciate my talent. I am also planning to have my first painting exhibition soon. I find myself lucky to pursue my passion as my father, who is a successful businessman, has always supported and encouraged me. Guru, I have been in a relationship with M for four years. M and I are really serious and want to get married. M has talked to his parents and they have agreed to accept me as their daughter-in-law only on one condition – if I leave painting. Actually, M’s parents are very conservative and they think that girls who are into painting or other such activities cannot become good wives. M is educated and broad-minded and has no issue with my painting, but the problem lies with his parents. Guru, I am in a dilemma; painting is my passion and I just don’t want to give it up. But, on the other hand, I don’t want to lose M as he is my love. My parents are neutral in this matter, and only want my happiness. M says that right now he cannot take a stand against his parents as he is financially dependent on them. Please suggest what I should do. I am torn between love and passion. I am so tensed.Arty Girl Dear Arty Girl,Relax, my dear. You don’t necessarily need to give up painting only to get married to M and you don’t have to leave M because of your passion. Yes, just be little patient. You are a creative person and not everyone can paint, so you should not waste your talent. Now, think rationally. Your future hubby has no objection to your work and this is the main thing. You have to live your life with him and that’s what matters. Other things are secondary. As you have stated, the problem lies with his parents, and you have to deal with them diplomatically. Say yes to this proposal. Take M in confidence. Get married. Get a break from your work for few months. Your parents-in-law fear that women who are artists cannot become good wives, just prove them wrong! Yes, be very nice and gentle with them and win their hearts with your warmth and affection. Once they start to appreciate you and like you, you can slowly and gradually get back to your work and can resume painting with a free mind. Hopefully, by that time your parents-in-law will have calmed down. Well, it won’t be easy, and will you need to be very tolerant and patient with them, but in the long run you will have both your love and your passion. I am sure M will support you in your endeavour. So, girl, just make up your mind and start your life journey with M on a happy note. Good luck! I idolise my brother-in-lawDear Guru, I read your column with great interest. I am an 18-year-old, studying in one of the prestigious colleges of Lahore. I am from a middle-class family. Recently, my older sister, who is 23 years old, got married to a landlord. My sister’s in-laws are very rich people. My brother-in-law saw my sister in some relative’s wedding and was so mesmerised by her beauty that he sent his proposal the very next day. My sister is very happy with him. But Guru, my problem is that I have started idolising my brother-in-law. I also want a rich and handsome guy for myself like him. My mother says that I should not build high hopes and that I should focus on my studies. Guru, I am also very beautiful like my sister. Don’t you think I also deserve a wealthy guy?Pretty GalDear Pretty Gal,I think your mother is right; you should not build high hopes and stop dreaming. Not everyone is as lucky as your sister. Everyone’s fortune is different. You never know what’s in your destiny. So, instead of waiting for Prince Charming, try to focus on your studies. And, getting married to a rich guy is not a guarantee for a happy married life. Being happy is a state of mind and it has nothing to do with money. You will realise my point when you attain maturity. Good luck!Kindly send your problems at: trustusproblems@yahoo.com

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