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She is so cruelHey Guru,I am a 25-year old boy, and I have done my masters in physics recently. I read your column with great interest and I really like your style of solving people’s problems. Guru, I am a victim of love. I have been in love with a girl since I was 15 years old. We were, at that time, studying in the same academy. I couldn’t resist her charms and fell in love instantly. Initially she used to treat me as a friend but then she started paying extra attention to me. I was more than happy. Fast forward, I got admission in college. I got her a mobile phone and we used to talk long hours. We became best friends and then one fine day she broke up with me. Actually, she was a flirt and used to talk to boys openly. She was from a very modern family and she herself was very liberal. I couldn’t take all this and she stopped talking to me. I was very shocked and hurt but then I diverted my mind towards my studies. Now, I have completed my studies but I haven’t forgotten her. I still love her. She is still the same – happy-go-lucky person. I think she has no regards for my feelings. It’s so painful to know that she is flirting with other guys. I am still waiting for her. Why is she so cruel? Guru, I am going into depression. I think I will become psycho after some time. Please tell me what I should do.R Lover Dear R Lover,You are a very sensitive guy who cannot accept the reality. Dear, she never loved you. It was you who had feelings for her. She was having a good time at your expense. It was your fault to have wrong ideas about her. There are all types of girls and boys in this world. Some are conservative, some are modern, some are shy, some are talkative, some are boring, and some are fun. So, everyone is different. She is a modern girl and she finds no harm in talking to boys. Here, you cannot judge her. That’s her life and you cannot really stop her from mingling with other boys. You cannot say she is a flirt, as she is very open about it. Apparently, she broke up with you as she must have found you a very possessive guy. And, I don’t understand why you are still waiting for her. Come on, there is a life ahead of you. You need to concentrate on your future. Don’t waste your time thinking about her. She is history. And she is not cruel; actually you are being extra emotional and sensitive. If you don’t want to turn into a psycho, then start finding solace in pleasurable activities like reading or listening to music. Join a gym or walk daily in a park. Sometimes physical activities help a lot in helping one come out from depression. Good luck! She is my first loveDear Guru,I am a 15-year-old boy. I am a big fan of your column. I am in love with a very beautiful girl, K. She is of my age and we study in the same school. We started talking when we were in grade 8. Let me tell you, Guru, I happen to be a reserved guy and don’t talk to girls generally. So when I started talking to K, everyone noticed us and our whole class started gossiping about our relationship. At first, we were not serious, but then after sometime we developed feelings for each other. We chatted for hours on Instagram but then I noticed a change in her behaviour. She hardly talks to me now. When I asked about her sudden change in behaviour, she just ignored the topic. My friends are telling me to leave her. Apparently, she has four boyfriends. Guru, I love her so much but am afraid of losing her. Please help.Highly Discouraged CrushDear Highly Discouraged Crush,You are only 15 and at your age one falls in love very easily. So, I don’t blame you for having feelings for K. But, dear, normally first love is actually a crush which seldom lasts. Read between the lines; if she is ignoring you then it’s a clear sign that she is not interested in keeping friendship with you. Actually, K is also confused as she is at a fragile stage where one is only exploring. She will get to know the true meaning of love once she attains some maturity. Your friends are right. Have some self respect; leave her before she leaves you. If you insist on keeping this relationship, then you will end up only hurting yourself. You may be feeling dejected today but few years down the road, you will laugh at your immaturity. Good luck!Kindly send your problems at: trustusproblems@yahoo.com

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